The Daily Post asks me today what is one piece of advice I wish I’d gotten earlier in time with this prompt – Powerful Suggestion.
I wrote this a little over a month ago, though it oddly feels like a lifetime ago. I had no intention of sharing it here on my blog, but I think that it has gotten to the point that I am blogging for strangers anyways. It doesn’t much matter and anyways, it’s what I wish I’d heard when I was younger.
It’s your, if nothing else, more experienced older self here.
I just wanted to let you know that you are worth so much more than you think you are. While you are trying to hide away, know that there is a whole world out there for you and you deserve it. You don’t have to have issues to be seen and heard. You can be yourself and that is enough. I know that you don’t like yourself very much now and you have not been kind to your body, but there are many people that will like you anyways. Give yourself a chance. You will have to work to see what they see, and it won’t always be easy, but know that you really are beautiful.
You are so smart and have a good head on your shoulders. Use it for something. Don’t let other people dictate who you will become. You know yourself better than anyone else. Don’t loose that. Study whatever you would like to study, whenever you would like to. It is always good to have an education of some kind. It’s okay if you aren’t quite sure what you are doing, though. You will figure it out as you go along and I know that you can do it.
You don’t have to settle for the first person that shows you attention. You can, and it may well be a wild ride, but you are so young and there are many different possibilities for you. Many people will love and care about you and you will love many people. Give it time and you may be surprised.
I know you don’t want to have biological children because the thought is so darn scary. It’s okay. Hey, children are scary. Know that if you have children, you will love them. There’s not doubt about it. You don’t have to be scared that you won’t know how. It will come. There may well be days where it doesn’t come as easily and you may want to run away screaming, but your children will know, even then, that they are loved. If you don’t have children, that is okay too. Hey, you have much to give, whether you become a mother or not.
Stay true to who you are and don’t be afraid. You can be fierce and that is okay. Don’t hide away from the world because you are terrified that people will see you. You deserve to be seen and heard. You don’t need to be afraid that people won’t like the real you. Give them a chance to find out for themselves. I’m pretty sure that you will be surprised.
Above all else, my beautiful one, know that you are worth it and you are so loved.
I know that it wasn’t just one piece of advice, but anyways, I think that what I would have needed to hear 15 years ago (or maybe a little earlier) was that I should live my own life. That I, myself, had worth and things to say and that I could go out and do what I really wanted. It has been so many years now, that I don’t even have a clue who that 18 year old girl was.